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Deconstruction

A few days ago I wrote The Perfect Imperfection.

I wrote a blog a day since. This is out of character for me for multiple reasons.

I usually want to review over and over. Change… rearrange continuously… Have someone review and approve. Then review it myself again and again. This can take days or even weeks. And then after weeks, doubt and fear of judgement sets in and I end up not publishing it at all.

After I wrote The Perfect Imperfection, I unconsciously started working on something that came up during one of my classes with my incredible teacher, Christina De Freitas. Deconstruction. Deconstructing some of my thoughts, emotions or some of my traits.

Last few blogs I wrote, I wrote quickly with minimal review and didn’t look for outside approval before publishing.  Slowly deconstructing my quest for perfection and my fear of judgement.

  1. 42 – The answer to everything – I wrote this on my 42th birthday. As simple as what I wrote is, I wouldn’t have published this a few weeks ago out of fear.
  2. No place I’d rather be – This one deconstructed both perfectionism and the fear of judgement. I would normally have taken days to film the perfect scenes and then days or weeks to cut and move pieces. I decided to let go… just go out and start filming. My nephew and I edited it in under an hour. What was important wasn’t really how the video looked, it was the intent and the message behind it. Before publishing the video, I was afraid of what people would think of the message or the result. But I overcame that irrational fear and just did it.
  3. Laser Focus – Here I talk about something I don’t understand well. I feared I would be all wrong in how I understand or explain it. Then, I just didn’t care if it’s right or wrong. It just felt right at the time and I went ahead.

Letting go, not overthinking and deconstructing some of our deep rooted thoughts and emotions is quite liberating.

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No place I’d rather be

We’ve all had to live in confinement over the past few months and we now know how it feels to live inside without much human interactions.

We each experienced it in our own way and it was difficult for most of us at varying degrees of difficulty.

We’re now slowly starting to deconfine, go out and see our friends again.

I was walking and enjoying the beautiful weather last week and started to think about all those that are confined like this year round. Some for weeks, some for months and some for years.

The song “Rather Be” by Clean Bandit and Jess Glynne started playing and I thought of a way to bring them with me on one of my next walk. I asked my nephew if I could borrow his camera and decided to film a hike in the woods and take everyone out with me. Thanks to my awesome nephew for his camera and editing the video! It was a fun little project :).

If you know someone who cannot enjoy the outside like we do, share this video with them. Or even better, go visit an area they want to visit or revisit, film your walk, bike ride, etc. and show it to them.

Bring a bit of sunshine in their day!

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We staked out on a mission to find our inner peace

Make it everlasting so nothing’s incomplete

It’s easy being with you, sacred simplicity

As long as we’re together, there’s no place I’d rather be

With every step we take, Kyoto to The Bay

Strolling so casually

…

When I am with you, there’s no place I’d rather be

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42 – The answer to everything

Today I turned 42. Feels like 24.

According to Douglas Adams’s novel, The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy, 42 is the answer to the “ultimate question of life, the universe, and everything,”.

41 was already pretty intense so if this is true, watch out! Haha!

I feel younger, stronger and much wiser than ever.

You all can feel like this, it’s all about mindset…. 

Move your body, free your mind… Be happy!

“It might seem crazy what I’m ’bout to say
Sunshine she’s here, you can take a break
I’m a hot air balloon that could go to space
With the air, like I don’t care baby by the way
…
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do
Hey, go, uh
Bring me down, can’t nothin’
Bring me down
My level’s too high to bring me down
Can’t nothin’ bring me down”

Go get it!

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The Perfect Imperfection

Hi. I’m Matt and I’m a perfectionist.

I was thinking about mindset and its effects on how we see the world. If we change our mindset, we might just be able to see perfection in imperfection.

Once you realize this, you stop focusing, wasting time and effort on things that don’t matter and you move forward. You stay away from the “on & off switch”, the “all or nothing” mindset and see the 50 shades of grey instead.

Aiming for perfection is fine and we should all aim high! However, wanting to reach perfection in everything you do is a waste of time and effort in my opinion. Achieve the perfect imperfection and you’ll achieve more than most.

“The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.”

Michelangelo

Keep working until you achieve perfection and you’ll stall, stagnate and miss out on a lot of other accomplishments along the way. And let’s be honest, you’ll never reach perfection in anything and that’s a beautiful thing.

Learn to let go. Don’t let perfectionism turn into an unhealthy obsession blinding you to what really matters. I say “unhealthy obsession” because being obsessed can be healthy in my opinion. It’s how and what you’re obsessed with that matters. But I digress, obsession is probably a topic for another blog.

All of this doesn’t mean to get lazy and accept mediocrity. Lex Fridman said it best.

“Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good, but also: don’t let society’s acceptance of mediocrity be the enemy of excellence.⁠”

Lex Fridman

Find balance. See the shades of grey. Achieve the perfect imperfection. And what is perfectly imperfect today most probably won’t be tomorrow, constantly evolving depending on your state of mind.

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The Domino Effect

For a long time, I was happy doing my little things in my own little world.

Last year, after a few months on medical leave, I slowly started to open up. I felt like seeing old friends, making new ones and exploring the world. I was still cautious… sticking to comfort like velcro.

Earlier this year, I met someone that, without knowing it, provided THE key.

The key was LOVE and the door was ME. It allowed me to slowly open up more and more… to see people… to see myself.

After this happened, everything quickly started to fall into place. 

Overwhelming? Yes! Scary? Oh hell yeah! Refreshing? Fuck yeah!

I’ve learned a lot about myself since and my ego still shows up from time to time to say: “Why didn’t I figure this out earlier? Why didn’t anybody teach me all of this sooner? I’ve wasted so many years during which I could’ve worked on all of this!”.

Then my true self remembers one of Gandalf’s quote:

“A wizard is never late, nor is he early, he arrives precisely when he means to.”

Reality is, I was working on this all along. Working on me. I just didn’t realize it. Dominos were being placed in line behind that door. Once it opened, they just started falling one after the other and clarity started to set in, domino by domino.

Years of battle between me and my ego left markings on my back. Now, instead of fighting with my fears, I embrace them. I find courage, love, I move forward and finally show who I really am. It’s hard… but it’s fun.

I am out, sharing all of this with the world and the dominos will just keep falling forever. I have spent my life aligning them one behind the other without knowing it. Setting this path that is now laying in front of me.

“Not all those who wander are lost” – J.R.R. Tolkien

“All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us” – J.R.R. Tolkien

Two sentences that inspired the tattoos on my back and my chest. The tattoos represent a lot of who I am. Time, space, duality, fears, ego… The pieces I’ve discovered lately are balance, love, and awareness of the true self…

You are working on yourself every day. Whenever you face a challenging situation, embrace it. Learn from it. Grow from it. And then share what you’ve learned with others so they can benefit from your experiences.

Open up. Embrace your fears and find courage, find love. Courage to love yourself, courage to love someone and courage to live your life to the fullest. And believe me, you’re more ready than you think. Your ego and your fears are simply distracting you… blindsiding you. You have what it takes, you’ve got this! Get out of your comfort zone and charge!

“Don’t count the days. Make the days count.” Muhammad Ali

Writing and publishing this blog is scary as hell for me but let’s go! Embracing my fears, getting out of my comfort zone and finding the courage of pressing the publish button uuuuummmmmmmmm… Now!

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